A MUST ASK DATING QUESTIONS

 So many people just jump into relationship without asking questions while some ignore to ask these questions maybe because they are scared of the answers they might get or they just want to have fun but they end up catching feelings...

well in this post I am going to be showing "A MUST ASK DATING QUESTIONS" If you don't like reading you can watch the video here https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNEyzZO9w3TfG25Ew3bZr7g

These are deliberate questions. Do not go into relationships just for sex or food or what have you..

 

1. Will I regret this relationship? this is an important question, make sure you get an answer from the person and also from yourself.

 

2. What is your temperament? on a scale of 1 to 10 know the person's temperament. you can give a demonstration to prove your point.

 

3. What are your future ambitions and aspirations? Know the persons intentions, is the person ambitious or is just contented with just anything. Do not try to domesticate a career person.

 

4. Between Snoring, Farting and Kicking which one can you tolerate? People tend to hide or ignore this part of their life either out of shame or fear of how the other person will react.

 

5. What is your take on divorce and polygamy? Get to know the person's take on divorce and polygamy to know if you have the same views. Do not shy away from these questions.

 

6. How many kids do you want and what is your take on adoption? People tend to think that this not an issue or that they can talk about this later on in the relationship but I am telling you is very important as others listed above. Get to know the person's take on adoption incase any of the woman is unable to conceive or the man is unable to get his partner pregnant.

 

7.What is your take on a special child/children ? Nobody prays for this but incase it happens know your partner's take in such a situation. Special children require so much care, love and attention, the parents needs psychological, emotional, mental and financial readiness.

 

8. What is your genotype? In short this should be the very first question to ask. Do not wait till you have caught feelings for each other before asking this question.

 

9. How do you like your food and what kind of food do you like?  Who will be doing the cooking and how involved each of your will be involved in the kitchen. This might look like is nothing of importance, but I assure you it is. People have gotten divorce just because of the way the other partner pressed out a toothpaste.

 

8. What is your take on stale food or fresh food? People refer to food stored in the freezer as stale food in Nigeria. So, cooking fresh food everyday  or eating food stored in the freezer.

 

9. What is your take on having a help? This must be discussed and agreed by both parties. Do not just spring surprises on each other.

 

10. Plan for childcare?  Discuss if the person even wants children or if you  want children before you talk about the emotional, financial as well as financial readiness for children.

 

11. What is your take on social media involvement? You will not meet someone who is already into social media and start restricting, controlling the person's use of it but again do not allow social media affect your relationship negatively.

 

12. Mental check is important. Evaluate each other's mental state if is normal to you and what you can handle.

 

13. In-laws visits, living together with in-laws. This might look like nothing to you but please do not play with this.

 

14. Sexual fantasies. Get to know each other's sexual fantasies and preferences. do not impose a preference on your partner. Discuss your sexual wants and needs to see if you both want the same thing or can want the same thing.

 

While asking all the questions check beyond the answers given but the gestures, mood, attitude , tone and expressions while answering these questions because that is where your answer lies.

 

Above all there is no template for relationship these are just my opinions. Do what works for you!!